Amore di sé

Amore di sé

February rolls around each year and we begin to love all things candy and chocolate, we hope we will receive some beautiful red roses, or one of those oversized teddy bears from the local Costco. We mull over Valentines Day cards to find the perfect one for that perfect someone. Some may argue that this is only one day of the year, but the mass amounts of social media, Kay jewelry commercials and red and pink fixations all over target are enough to make anyone and everyone think about love.

What type of love should we be thinking about? The valentine cliché of February tells us that we should be thinking about our love for others. But I am here to tell you that this notion is wrong.

Before even thinking about loving someone else, you must first have love for yourself. You should be your biggest fan, number one motivator, and person to lean on. We sometimes get so caught up in this notion of love in the month of February, and we may stress over buying the perfect gift, or stress about not having anyone to buy a gift for. These stresses make us forget who is truly important to show our love to, and that is YOURSELF!

Igniting confidence within starts with loving yourself. If you can set aside all prior agreements you have made about yourself, start fresh and begin to love who you are; your confidence will ignite.

How do we start to LOVE who we are and the life that we live? Here are 4 steps you can put into action today…

1. Acknowledge your feelings

Become more mindful of how you feel in every situation, be truthful with yourself, do not suppress negative emotions and let them pile up. If you choose to acknowledge your feelings you then will have the opportunity to change those feelings into something more positive!

2.  Reward yourself

Instead of waiting for someone else to acknowledge something important you accomplished, reward yourself. It could be as small as writing yourself a little powerful note, to buying yourself your favorite candy. No one but you is responsible for making you happy!

3. Promote positivity

Share words of kindness. Anything negative that you say about others is a direct reflection of how you view yourself and your life. Create a positive aura of yourself and project this positivity wherever you go.

4. Eliminate self-criticism

Say no to self-hate. Anytime you recognize you criticizing yourself, change that perspective, this goes hand in hand with promoting positivity, change your way of thinking, and love every single aspect of yourself, from your hair to your toes and everything in-between. You have the power to change these thoughts.

If you put into action these four steps, you will be loving yourself in no time!

I am one of those people who is obsessed with taking those buzzfeed quizzes and learning more about myself, well, really I love taking any kind of personality test, so I found this awesome quiz about how much you love yourself! It is super quick and it may open your eyes to something you personally need to work on to show yourself some more lovin’

****TAKE THIS QUIZ****

Lastly, remember to “Ignite Women’s Confidence” you must start with yourself! And if you’re having any troubles use this next song to help Ignite the fire! Cant wait to see you all in March, I would love to chat with you all some more about women’s confidence, just come and find me!!  Watch this video to ignite your confidence! It always inspires me!

xoxo,

Jasmine Horne 

SEPC Education Sessions Coordinator

It starts with you!

Igniting Women's Confidence: It starts with you!

Starting with me, I am Chelsea Poplin! I attend school at Wingate University, a small school located near Charlotte, North Carolina. I am majoring in Math / Business, and am planning on making that big walk across the stage in May. I am a proud sister of Sigma Sigma Sigma, becoming a member of this organization ignited my love for student involvement and I quickly became a part of multiple facets of campus. 

When I reflect on this year’s conference tagline, “Igniting Women's Confidence,” I realize what a powerful phrase it is. It insinuates that once your confidence is sparked that it can only grow from that point forward, never being extinguished. It reminds me of a quote I try to life my life by, I discovered it in seventh grade.  The quote is by Marianne Williamson and has two important parts.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?”

This portion of the quote has always resonated with me, reminded me that I am capable of doing anything that I set my mind to, and that there is nothing to be afraid of. A lot of times we are our own worst enemy and create doubt that does not need to exist.  This line of the quote shows that by having confidence in oneself you set the spark in motion.  

“It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

When I started my journey in college, I had decided instead of focusing on myself, I would focus on helping others shine. Through letting my light shine and encouraging others to believe in themselves, I began to gain an intangible confidence.  I am thankful for this confidence and the ability to share it with others, and I am ready to share my shine with all of you at SEPC. 

I am passionate about SEPC and everything that it embodies, because for over 60 years it has given women the ability to ignite their confidence by empowering women to positively impact those they surround themselves with. It gives women the opportunity to take on leadership positions, and serve a philanthropic cause to help women all across the world. We as women are all talented and wonderful, and as we work together to ignite one woman’s confidence at a time it will be truly revolutionary.  Image the bright light we will all hold at the end of the SEPC weekend, with hundreds of Panhellenic sisters providing support and knowledge to make a difference in our chapters, Panhellenic communities, college campuses, and communities.  By igniting our confidence we will become global thinkers, changers, and help others shine.

The Biggest Question I’ve Heard in all of my years at the University of Montevallo is, “But how do I get involved?!”

LET ME TELL YOU, it is a lot easier than it sounds!

When I was asked, “Molly, what ignites your confidence?” I looked at it from a perspective of when I was a freshman, if you would have told me some of the things I would be doing in the future, the large audiences I would have to speak to, I would have probably laughed in your face.

You see, it’s not that I don’t like doing those things, but I LACKED CONFIDENCE in myself! What I did not know was that joining a sorority would completely mold me into a more confident, involved, woman. It would also help me uncover hidden leadership capabilities in myself- and for that, I am forever grateful.

Not going to lie, I was kind of thrown in to my biggest leadership role on campus. I was selected as the member of my chapter who would serve as Vice President of Panhellenic one year, and then President of Panhellenic the next. Who would have known that I would be spiraled into a hundred different areas where I had to lead, but I never once felt like I COULD NOT do it. With the support of my sisters, my Greek Community, my advisor, and many more, I have grown into someone who people actually come to for support and advice (and sometimes that still blows my mind!!).

Many sorority women will tell you that yes, they are involved. But my questions to the audience reading would be: Has being in a sorority given you an opportunity to lead? In what areas of leadership do you excel? What do you need to work on?

Getting a little personal here, I want to tell you my answers to those questions. Yes, I have graciously been able to lead a team of Pi Chis, a Junior Panhellenic, and finally a Panhellenic Council. I believe that my strengths are that I’m easily approachable (or at least I think I am!), I respect others opinions and ideas, and I care about our future as a group. I finally learned how to delegate, which, by the way, has got to be the NUMBER ONE thing you need to learn how to do while you’re in a leadership position!! Some areas that I still think I need to work on is keeping everyone on track (sometimes we’re on a role and I just don’t want to interrupt!), and making sure each person is individually feeling prepared and on task.

I’m sure many of you would agree with me when I say that being Greek has given you more opportunities than you can count, so make sure you’re taking advantage of each and every one! Never take being a leader for granted, it will be over before you know it! LEARN from your mistakes, and use them to motivate yourself for the next time!

So, when people ask me “but how do I get involved?!”, the VERY FIRST thing I say is “Look into going Greek!”. I say that because going Greek has allowed me to experience more things than I have time to sit down and tell you about, but I can say, that without going Greek, I would not be the person that I am today. And for that, I thank you, NPC, for igniting my confidence as both a leader, and a Greek woman.

Grace /grâs/ (n): a disposition to be giving or helpful; goodwill.

Igniting Women’s Confidence: What this means to ME?

Grace /grâs/ (n): a disposition to be giving or helpful; goodwill.
By. Grace McCullough: Publications Coordinator

I believe we are all called to serve. Our blessings in life have come to us so that we may share them with others. And being that my name is defined as ‘goodwill,’ I figured it’s about time I embrace my namesake and share some with others.

As a sorority woman, I’ve been blessed with opportunities to grow in my leadership, friendships, and maturity. However, the biggest growth I’ve noticed throughout my years of Greek life, has been in my self-confidence, and without that change none of my other wonderful blessings could have happened.

And although I’ve seen some improvements, my time learning and growing is not done yet! I thought I would use my final year as an active sorority member to take advantage of the one aspect of Greek life I’ve always seemed to overlook, yet have always wished to get involved in: philanthropy. What better way to live out this year’s SEPC motto of “Igniting Woman’s Confidence” than by using my confidence to inspire confidence in others? Although my goals for giving will continue throughout this final year of college, I’ve outlined my philanthropic plan for you on the SEPC blog.

Step 1: Find a need.

            I’ve never felt much of a connection to my philanthropic work before, which has led my busy body self to only achieving the minimum service hours required each semester (mainly through mandatory sorority service events, I might add).  In hopes of changing this, I thought I would find a community that needed volunteers, but that I could also actually identify with. Where to start? How about where my sorority has already called me to serve: Gerontology and Alzheimer’s research.  I thought serving at a home that helps individuals suffering from the disease I’ve sought to raise money to fight would provide a meaningful home for me as well. Welp, wanting to volunteer somewhere is not as simple as I believed. I filled out online applications with my qualifications and good intentions, but being selected as a volunteer and attending orientations and training can be a lengthy process. SOO, my attempt to connect to my sorority philanthropy is still under construction, return later for (hopefully) more progress.

      

Even this level of excitement 

didn't get me excited to volunteer.

                                                    

Step 2: Find ways to meet need.

            There are ALWAYS organizations that are seeking financial support to meet their needs of serving others. Although donating money may seem like a shortcut out of doing hard labor service, it is desperately needed and beneficial to many. Problem: I’m a broke college student. How to fix this bump in the road?   Sell, sacrifice, and save.  Sell: I went through my closet and finally purged those clothing items I haven’t worn in years, and took them to a secondhand clothing shop to earn back a few dollars. Sacrifice: I love my Grande Skinny Vanilla Latte from Starbucks as much as the next sorority girl, but skimping on those coffee visits can really add up! Save: Setting a couple dollars aside every paycheck can eventually snowball into a mini savings account. Where did I decide to donate my new wads of cash? I thought I would make two donations, to both a global need and a local need. As a member of the Southeastern Panhellenic Association, I figured it was only fitting to make a contribution to Circle of Sisterhood, so girls across the world could be ignited with confidence through the charitable acts of this great philanthropic organization. I also make a donation to my local Dare to Care, to aid in feeding young women in my own community that are struggling to afford nutritious meals for themselves and their families.

        Saying goodbye to my

 precious Starbucks

was quite difficult.

Step 3: Find ways to encourage others.

            Although serving others can be rewarding all on it’s own, it can be so much more fun when you can share in the experience with others. My favorite way to give back to the community is with my bimonthly visits to the American Red Cross with my best friend Allie. By acting as each other’s blood giving buddies, we are sure to never miss an appointment, and tend to make the experience 100 times more enjoyable. This past visit, Allie wasn’t feeling well, yet she still came to entertain me in my blood donation. I’ve given many times, but this was the first visit where I didn’t have to (embarrassingly) have an American Red Cross worker wipe my neck and fan me in hopes of maintaining my consciousness. I attribute this minor success to Allie’s brilliantly distracting conversation skills, as only a true best friend could achieve. I saved 3 lives in just that visit, and who knows, that blood could go to help another SEPA woman across the country!

My most recent donation!

  

My first blood donation!

                                       

P.S. The best part of donating blood are the snacks you get afterwards.  :) 

                                                         

 

Here is a big THANK YOU to my bestie Allie for being my cheerleader this past donation. (Confession: I may be wearing a sticker that reads “Be nice to me, I gave blood today”, but last time it got me free sushi samples! Giving really does pay off) 

As I mentioned, my philanthropic project is not finished and most definitely not without flaws, but fingers crossed these small beginnings will lead me to more successes throughout this final year in college. Igniting confidence in others has encouraged more confidence in my plans for service. I’ll plan on sharing my future stories with you at the conference in March! What does Igniting Women’s Confidence mean to you?!